why???maybe because of my age that keep on increasing every year gain me self realization that I'am
no longer teenager..still in my youth but whether I'am ready or not, sooner or later I must take a step into marriage..
kay..done with the not- so-needed introduction..hoho ..errr how to start unravelling the contract that most of us want it to last forever..actually I'am not an expert or experienced in marriage life..I know a bit from my class lectures. this semester I took parenting and family management subject as an extra curricular during the weekend. so far I learned a lot from it and what I got here is what I want to share with you..
marriage in Islam define as a contract between a male and female to
(pardon e word
so cont..ermm in bigger context it is a contract that comes together with responsibility and understanding plus gaining legal permission to makes what is haram (sex-intercourse b4 marriage) to halal.
my ustaz said..if u do everything together b4 marriage..then afterwards everything will be tasteless..(personally I think it is true since I'am myself easily get bored :) )
next please!!!
hehe....criteria for husband and wife:
@religiosity
@ethics
those who hold a strong grip to the religion will be a good husband. if he or she has both religiosity and ethics, they make a perfect soulmate for each and any of us..but but but..when u found someone who has both but has no job (especially for men) euwwww....what do u expect from them?? what will u eat later on?? then..children with hunger and so thin or dripping saliva..no no no..so their finance must be stable or at least they have a steady job. remember!!
the most important part that most younger generation nowadays do not know is the right preparation for marriage. if u happens to love someone or interested, my advice to you is..(ecececeh..hehe kalah prof) don't just simply propose to them or confess ur feeling. better keep to ur self. Islam did not encourage any Muslim (both male and female) to confess prior to the significant if protecting your heart from being broken. remember..never confess!!!protect ur dignity and ur pride. the way to do so is by asking someone u trust to tell the person's besty to convey the message. hmppphh..sound much better at if it happens that one side reject the other, at least not in front of ur face.
here is the right way to propose:
1.al-khitbah
-the visits of the boy's family to the girl's house.
(in malay we called it merisik)
2.contract of nikah
-at the masjid
-court (authority/judge/representative)
-make sure it is documented to avoid future problem.
3.day of nikah(hari perkahwinan)
ps: do you know that actually marriage is the second most important contract in life as a human being after shahadah.
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